Lessons Learned From 6 Months Of Marriage

Today marks 6 months of being married to my wonderful husband and I am so thankful to be his wife.

Our first six months of marriage was interesting and challenging. Marriage brought out our best strengths and weaknesses.

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As soon as we tied the knot, we immediately had to finish packing up our belongings to uproot our lives to another continent. In other words, as newlyweds, we truly haven't had any intentional time for each other to enjoy married life. Heck, if it's any proof - it's been 6 months and we have yet to have a honeymoon.

Related: ANNOUNCEMENT: WE ARE PCSing TO ITALY!

LESSONS LEARNED AFTER 6 MONTHS OF MARRIAGE

1) Love, Patience and Respect is KEY

Love is patient, love is kind. But when you're faced with the world's challenges every day, how much of that do you really apply in your own life? 

I married my husband because I love him and I want to spend the rest of my life with him. Although these past 6 months was tough as nails, we never forgot a day to tell each other "I love you". But is telling each other "I love you" enough?

Every marriage takes a lot of work. Like, A LOT. You probably need to re-assess your marriage if you don't feel like you're working hard enough. Marriage is more than just saying "I love you" to your spouse. Marriage takes a lot of patience and respect, too.

2) The best teammate you will ever have is your spouse

When you are in a marriage, you will learn quickly that your spouse is the best teammate you're ever going to get. He or she will complement your strength and weaknesses, making you the best duo out there. Your spouse's knowledge of who you are and vice versa will benefit your marriage. 

Don't take your spouse for granted, ever. If you do, or notice that you have, apologize quickly and stay humble.

3) Transparency

If there was anything to describe our first 6 months of marriage, it would be BUSY. Both my husband and I were so busy, we barely had time to ask each other how our day was at the end of the day because we were already tired. With time, I started to doubt my ability and importance as wife. If you're a wife or even a girlfriend, you know what I'm talking about. 

Insecurity got the best of me and it caused a lot of problems in my marriage. 

Too soon, huh? Unfortunately, it's the reality. Our reality.

Until this past week, leading up to our 6 months of marriage, I finally had the courage to talk to my husband and share with him how I was feeling, with full transparency. By being transparent with my husband, its opened so many doors for conversation for the both of us.

4) Pray together 

The most powerful thing you can do for your marriage is pray together. Pray together even if you don't like it. Pray together even if you're fighting. There's something about hearing your spouse pray about the things in their heart. 

5) But Continue to Pray For Each Other

However, don't wait or depend on praying together. You have the ability, as an individual to continually pray for your marriage, for your spouse and everyone else that matters to your heart. Remember that we all have our own relationships with the Lord and He is always listening.

6) Go back to the basics

When your marriage hits a rough patch, there will be times of feeling helpless. Don't talk bad about your spouse to anyone, but don't hesitate to ask advice from those you look up to. 

Go back to the basics. Remind yourself why you got married in the first place. Remind yourself why God brought you together.

That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh. Adam and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame.
— Genesis 2:24-25 NLT
Don’t just pretend to love others. Really love them.
— Romans 12:9 NLT
It’s not important who does the planting, or who does the watering. What’s important is that God makes the seed grow
— 1 Corinthians 3:7 NLT
So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
— Ephesians 5:33 NLT
Since there are no longer two but one, let no one split apart what God has joined together.
— Matthew 19:6 NLT

Although marriage has not been what I imagined, I am grateful for what my husband and I experienced in our first 6 months of marriage. It's allowed us to work with each other and slowly build a firm foundation that will carry us on through our marriage. 

To my husband, I love you. I appreciate every single thing you do for our family and I am so sorry for all the times I did not appreciate you. I love being your wife and I'm so lucky to have you as my husband. Always going to love you more ;)